Real quick

[avice]

Real quick I have inlaws from hell- I mean, from HELL! DH doesn't talk to them.. the had a huge incident happen a while back and had no choice but to sever the ties. Sadly along with that, went his siblings. His older sister is a witch and a half and he has no wish to speak to her.. same thing with one of his brothers. But he has another sister who is 18 and just had her first baby last night. That we knew of, things were okay between us and that sister.. not great, but okay. We were not invited to her baby shower and I found out today that she had her baby last night.. no one from the family let us know. Now the way I see it, this sister hasn't been keeping contact because while she is newly married and an obvious new parent, she hasn't realized yet that she is an adult, independent of her parents now. I think she still feels the need to side with my inlaws even though things with us and her are cool. Now my question is, should we her hospital room to congratulate her? That's all, just congratulate her. I don't expect her to behave the way adults do because as in many cases, just because you turn 18, doesn't mean you think and behave like an adult. So do we show her by example what adults do or do we just say screw it.. if she wanted her brother around, she'd . ?

[lachman]

She's young. Call and be nice. Send a card or something. She is just learning how to live on her own away from the parents. Don't hold their sins against her. (and remember if family threw the shower, there is no way they would invite you)

[schattner]

right right I thought so too... she and I have had our little tiffs but nothing so huge like with the inlaws- and even then, about 3 or 4 months ago, my DH and I talked to this sister and straightened everything out so we were under the impression that things were at least okay. I didn't expect to be invited to the shower and I didn't expect a telling us that she had the baby.. again, I know what it's like to be 18.. not a new mother at 18 but 18...lol.. and she didn't have the most stable parents.

[greff]

go ahead and make a quick A woman who has just had a baby is not about to ... She's too busy with her baby!

[pringle]

If it was me, I would send flowers and a card ing may be a good idea, but if her parents are there, it could get akward

[lazo]

agreed, send flower and/or card in fact get all the siblings birthdays down and send cards for for each and everyone when there day hits.send xmas cards.try it for one year and see if the doors of communication open up.cards do not pyt you in a position of confrontation but let them know that you guys still exist.nearly everthing can be forgiven in time

[Nikky]

send a card and a gift so she knows you are thinking of her. And then her in a few months when things have calmed down. You need to show her that you are supporting her, but not add to her stress.

[vandoren]

WE don't know her addy.. she doesn't live with the parents anymore.. well, I guess we could send it to her parents' house and they'd give it to her. hmm... I guess, the mom in me is jumping out of her skin. You moms know what it's like to have a brand new baby. As many problems as we've had, I want to hold the baby..lol.. I want things to be okay. :) Ugh

[snodgrass]

is she registered somewhere? the registry will know where to send a gift

[Pascale]

if she is, I have no clue where it would be all I know is what city and that she's renting a house..lol.. DH could and ask.. but I'm not sure if it defeats the purpose.. I'm wondering if he s and then she might want him to go down to see her. I shouldn't separately from him, huh? He should her and not me at all right?

[tyer]

hit the ususal suspects babies r us target amazon

[ruppe]

I think you need to leave her alone right now she has a lot of stress to deal with - the added stress of a long lost brother and his wife is just more than she needs right now

[braasch]

my little sister was the same way when she turned x. Now she is in jail lol. I guess they will learn quick not to act like that.

[molin]

*have to bite* wtf, smurf. what happened to your sister?

[victorine]

a car?